Thank You guys! sometimes I just need to have a conversation with a bunch of level headed ladies to get the gist of how I am feeling and what the proper reaction should be. A bunch of you made the same comment that my ever wise mommy made. (Avoiding the conversation was not denying myself, but rather avoiding an UNNECESSARY confrontation).
I capitalized unnecessary for a reason. A very good reason. I've been learning to confront people for the past (10 or so) years. I've been owning my opinion rather than just going with whatever the leader says. I am normally a follower, or maybe more of a non-leader, I don't necessary follow idiots- I follow those I agree with, anyhow- For years I'd allow people to say things or demand things and just go with the flow even if I didn't agree with it. I'd let people make racist jokes, I'd tolerate people stepping on me, etc...I was Ok with it. Until I learned it was slowly eating me away. I had to figure out how to make a stand- but that's a slippery slope. I had to learn when to make a stand as well- and I am still learning.
This is why my mommy is so good. She is my unbiased observer. Even if I tell a story with my biased opinion, she can still manage to see the other person's point of view. She also knows when to hold them and knows when to fold them. I value her opinion. And yours.
So, I am glad I didn't react. because that was true- I didn't need to. It didn't need to be clarified. I didn't change because I didn't publicly label myself. Neat thing is that boyfriend's dad took the time to thank me for chatting with sister, for being part of the family, for interacting with the family. That was cool, huh?
* and as a side note- Andy made me crack up in the picture comments. He asked if my broom has tried to win me back, like the swiffer commercial's broom. LOL. (Andy's blog is Eye Candy- he posts a picture a day).