Lyn at Witchblog posted a cute bit yesterday on obituaries that told the truth, the down and dirty, the whole dirt. I thought this would be a cool exercise for us...to think what our obits would currently say, and to think what we'd want them to say.
What dirty (not so secret) secrets could my obit have? I love wine, and beer, and mixed drinks especially margaritas- and I drink them. (Tipsy is not a bad thing. I don't like drunk, though I have been). I'm a jack of all trades, but have mastered none- I don't stick with things forever, I just flutter from one to the next. I'm in love with love, and a sucker at times (been married twice, divorced twice). I had my first kid before I was 21- I got knocked up. I'm moody and might have a bit of my birth father in my personality (he's a downer like eyeore and a hypochondriac). I cuss occasionally, smoke (a pipe or cigar) occasionally, and tell dirty jokes occasionally. I'm not much of a laborer- I prefer hard work mentally- though some might argue that my work isn't hard enough. This dribbles into my exercise- I used to work out a lot. I don't so much anymore. If it's a mainstream newspaper, maybe they will want to mention my not so mainstream religion, as well.
Some people who have issues with me might be able to muck it up a bit more- but I think their opinions of me would be biased negatively :)
What about good things? I try. I try to be open, patient, kind, accepting, and understanding. I try to earn my keep and care for myself. I try to keep promises and uphold my responsibilities. I put love and effort into everything I make. I am creative. I am appreciative. I save bugs. I don't kill ( I do eat meat- so I kind of kill, and I eat veggies, that's kind of killing too), but I don't squash bugs or murder people ( misquitos and black widows are an exception- there it's kill or be killed). I maintain a bit of a childlike wonder and joy in my life- and I share that with children and adults a like (it's good for you to color, look for 4 leaf clovers, dance in the aisles of the grocery store, flap your arms and try to fly).
somewhere in there it would be nice if someone mentioned that I love my kids, stayed home with them for 11 years, volunteered at their schools, and tried my best. Maybe that I was, am, a decent daughter and sister too. We will see about the wife thing- I thought I was a good one, I don't know if I'll ever be one again.
What do I want to do that my obit might mention? I've talked about this before- I want to do that stickynote thing where I leave positive sticky notes for people to get (I've left one or two- but don't get out much). I want to do the toy society and leave toys all over for people to find . Basically I want to spread surprises and joy. I want to travel and learn about other cultures. I want to be open to new experiences and foods and customs. I want to visit places of worship. I want to watch people. I want to write a children's book, or perhaps a substitute book for schools. I want true and enduring love. I want to be old with someone else who adores me. I want to save animals. Maybe foster kitties. Maybe get a big house and make it just for kitties. I want to grow my own food, can some stuff, make my own cosmetics. I want to know about crystals, aromatherapy, herbs. I want to live fully and enjoy it.
What about you? what will your obit say? what should it mention? what do you want? I'm adding a mcLinky if you wanna link up~