Number of people that commented on my blog verbally or written- 14
Number of people that agreed- 12
Number of women- 12
Number of men-2
Number who actually read the whole thing- maybe 13, but not 14
Boyfriend and other man wanted to play devil's advocate. Other man was hung up on the fact that I used the word spoiled before rich- and I'm calling you out, other man! He was also the one that didn't read the whole post. He argued that people have the right to choose what they spend their money on, and that we look for aesthetics everywhere, so why not in our own bodies?
Boyfriend wanted to argue that society does not dictate skinny and big boobs. He also wanted to know if I was upset about plastic surgery because of the dangers of it- and why I thought it was OK to dye my hair and get tattoos...?
Is it because they are male? Is it because I can't properly explain myself? Is it me making a big deal out of something that's not? am I a hypocrite?
Oh- apparently lesbianism is cool if you are sexy too.- Is this not dictating a male's idea of perfection?
I am at loss for words. I thought what I said yesterday was worthy of winning a debate. Do I need figures to back up my statements? Was the 7 million people with an eating disorder not enough? Or the number of people who feel the need to cut into themselves to fit some mold?
I can't say this hasn't been going on forever- I was gonna argue that before plastic surgery, women didn't feel the need to morph themselves- but they did. Corsets, girdles, makeup, the tapeworm diet, binding feet or boobs- all fit into this category. Dying hair probably does as well. So maybe I should go without makeup and hairdye to prove I am really serious about this subject. Maybe I shouldn't shave either.
I was upset at both men. I still am. Aesthetics is subjective. It is also forced on society in subtle forms of brainwashing. Thus, the corset, the roaring twenties with small boobs, asians getting eyelid surgery, and breast implants. Why do you think advertising works so well? we all brain wash easily.
I told boyfriend that he'd pick the above picture over my current body if he had the choice. He didn't argue or agree. That's one reason I'm pissed. I like boyfriend as he is. I don't want to change him to have abs like "the situation" or shoulders like that werewolf boy. I think all his body traits are part of his wonderful package. I really wish all men thought the same way about women.
So, what do you think? really? I feel that tattoos are like decorating myself- maybe even hair dye and makeup are the same way. I can paint my room without changing the architecture of a house. I can trim the hedges and not change the structure. There- that's my arguement. That's my issue.
God, Goddess, Frank Lloyd Wright- all had excellent architectural intelligence. I should appreciate that.
of course- this doesn't cover the weight issue I discussed- but I like the way my friend Janet said it "my point is that until we can look within ourselves and see that we are amazingly created and awesome just how we are including our flaws, no amount of surgery, denial of life's pleasures, obsession over exercise or any other exercise in the name of aesthetics will ever make us feel whole or beautiful. We are all deserving of love and acceptance despite our hangups, flaws, worries and even the things we are confident of. Oh sure it is easy to look at a stunningly beautiful person, feel envious and think hateful thoughts about what they may or may not do to achieve their beauty, they deserve to feel loved and adored for who they are despite their outer shell as well. When it comes right down to it.. we are all the same on the inside under our skin... just some of us are more marbled than others"
I'll just keep eating fairly healthy, keep walking my dog, and keep reminding myself that I am beautiful the way I am- you all told me that :)